Assumption, Its Time for Change!
I've been doing some thinking lately, yes I know- wow talk about amazing! LOL
Assumption: You're fat because you eat way too much.
Possibility: The person could have a thyroid issue, or any other medical condition that you are unaware of.
Assumption: You lay around all day, because you're lazy.
Possibility: You could have a sleep disorder, or sore and achy bones and muscles, or maybe you were up all night with a sick kid.
Assumption: You're yelling all the time because you're a big mouth trouble maker.
Possibility: You're hard of hearing and didn't even realize you were yelling!
Assumption: You have a bad attitude towards everyone, you're just a jerk.
Possibility: You have been burnt and used by too many people in your past, your guard is up. With a bad attitude, you have a better chance at not making new friends and being used and abused again.
Assumption: You're on the computer all day- you must be looking at porn and harassing other people and trying to start crap, you have nothing better to do.
Possibility: You're on the computer earning money doing surveys, reading emails, and writing articles for Associated Content.
Assumption: You don't have a job because you're lazy, refuse to work and want to live off the Welfare system.
Possibility: You're trying to find a job, jobs are hard to come by, you were hurt on the job, and maybe you don't even get welfare after all!!
Assumption: Those persons children are out of control, you bet they're spoiled and never get punished at all. After all, you never see them get punished!
Possibility: The Parents discipline their children in private and at home, so as to not make a scene, the kids are just being kids.
Now here's the best part; the next time you are out and about, look at a complete stranger. Look at how they are dressed, how they walk, and even how they talk, if you get to hear them speak.
Now stop and think. That's right, the next step is assumption.
She's wearing raggy jeans with holes all over the place, she's filthy, her car is smoking and knocking, she's wearing two different socks....
What do you think?
She must be homeless. And if she has a place, maybe her waters turned off.
Maybe she was just working on the car, under the hood when the kids came outside and announced that they were out of milk. She runs to the store. The two different socks, maybe she put them on the dark, so as not to wake her spouse or kids. Maybe today was laundry day. And on, by the way, she put the raggy clothes on because she knew she had to work on the car. She definitely didn't want to ruin her good clothes!
Feel bad now? I mean obviously here you were feeling bad for her, and then you find out the facts, and wow were you ever wrong.
No, it isn't right. And yet it is all so wrong.
Assuming is a lot like judging. And it is something most everyone does and just can't help it.
We are weak. We read the word of God and know right from wrong. We try to do right, and half the time, don't even know when we are making mistakes!
Yet when you see a group of homeless people in their boxes in the alley, you can't help but feel so bad for them. You wonder how they ended up there. You wish you could help them. Then you even feel grateful for all it is that you have.
You assumed and judged all wrapped up into one.
Don't get me wrong, I am not saying to snub people, watch the concrete sidewalk as you walk, and avoid any and all conversations, and even eye contact with strangers. What kind of life would that be?
What I am saying, is avoid being negative. Don't think the worst. Don't think you're better then someone, even if you are. Yes you can be thankful for all that you have, and yes you can even pray for your neighbors and friends and family. Just be more positive.
Having so much negativity even if it is just in the form of a thought-it all adds up. It builds up, and sooner or later you will speak out loud and can quite possibly embarrass yourself.
Smile; love your friends, neighbors and family. Don't covet or envy them. Don't sit their wishing karma on your enemies.
Focus on you and yours. Teach your family wisely. Have a positive impact on people that you meet. Make them glad to have met you. One little smile can go a long way!
What you do, what you say and yes, even what you think-makes a difference.
President Obama said 2009 is time for change. That change starts with YOU.
Published by Deneale K. Williams
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