Let's Talk Sex! An Informative Question & Answer Guide
Q. What are sexual enhancement products?
They are products to help you have the best sex ever. From things like KY, to a lubricated condom, and of course, products such as those I have written about before- Barmensen's product line.
Q. Do sexual enhancement products prevent pregnancy?
No. I advise the "pill" it is the most effective. I also advise using a condom, to prevent the transferring of any diseases, and conditions either partner might have.
Q. Do sexual enhancement products prevent the spreading of diseases?
No. Again, I suggest using a condom at all times.
Q. Do I actually need sexual enhancement products?
That is up to you, and your partner. They are of course not required. However, I do advise some type of lubrication, because dry sex can cause tears on the female.
Q. Are there sexual enhancement products that I can ingest?
There are pills that you can take, Barmensen carries some, and then there are prescription drugs such as Viagra. Consult your Doctor. No everyone can take these, it all depends on how healthy you are. And as far as the lubrications being ingested, read the bottle. If it says you can ingest, than you can. If it says you cannot- then you can't.
Q. Is there a cure for sexual dysfunction?
It all depends on the individual. I would simply advise changing your diet, health, activities, and stress. If you are on anti-depressants, this will affect your performance, both male and female. DO NOT quit taking your anti-depressants, this is very dangerous! Speak to your physician.
If you have stress, and aren't on medications, try the natural way with herbs, such as Valerian root and St. John's Wort. Also try getting a journal and writing down what is bothering you. During sex try putting on soft music, so you don't focus on things like: Did I turn the iron off.
Q. What can I do about erectile dysfunction?
This is one of the main reasons people are inventing products like Barmensen's product line. To help you. Don't be ashamed. This is most common in the elderly, but if you have it, tell your Doctor, there could be something wrong. Maybe you have too much stress, you have been over working. There is obviously something, and telling your Doctor, he or she can help you determine your problem, and help you.
Q. What if I ejaculate too soon?
For this I advise telling your partner, the second time will last longer, or having a private session a few hours in the bathroom alone, and discreetly, ejaculating there. The second time around will usually last longer. This too, is a problem you can share with your doctor, it is nothing to be ashamed of. When your body starts acting strange and out of the ordinary, for anything- there is a reason.
This is your body, trying to tell you to take care of a problem. Barmensen's products are made to help you with stamina, staying power, and self control. They want to help. They are trying, and keep creating new products, because every product works differently on each person. Don't be shy, try a sample, they do sell them!
Q. What if my erection won't subside?
After four hours or longer, either call your physician or go to the hospital. That long of blood flow, can be dangerous and is not a laughing matter. Something is definitely wrong.
Q. Can women have sexual problems too?
Yes they can. The biggest sexual problem is lack of foreplay. Not all men feel women need it, and yes they do. Many of the women in the olden days, felt it was "there place" to put out when the man needed it. Women have needs too. And women have a hard time staying focused, their thoughts run around, remembering events, such as "Did I turn the iron off?" so soft music will help. Talk sweetly and romantically to her too.
Yes, sometimes men need foreplay, but they are more up and at them-per say, than most women. Women, just like men, when on anti-depressants can loose the desire. Work with her, help her over come it. Don't just throw her to the wolves because she acts like a dead fish, show her you love her, need her and badly want her.
Q. Is there a difference between making love and sex?
I believe so. Sex is one person getting what one person wants, not satisfying the partner. Making love is both people in love, wanting it, needing it, and giving their all to one another.
Q. What if I want sex all of the time?
Again, this is something you need to make your Doctor aware of. I am sure you heard the phrase, or been called a "nymphomaniac." This is a real condition, and counseling will help you put your life and needs and desires into perspective. There are other things in life, not just sex. This is a problem, and no ointment will cure this. It too, is nothing to be ashamed of.
Q. What if I don't want sex ever?
This too, is something you need to tell your Doctor. Something is wrong with your metabolism. They can help you, see what in wrong, because it can be trauma related, and you're blocking out why, or even something in your brain which is sending a wrong signal somewhere. This is something that requires medical attention, and is also nothing to be ashamed of.
Q. When is too soon to be having intercourse?
Personally, I feel you shouldn't have it until you are married. But we all know, that is not a real reality in todays day and age. I don't feel people should become sexually active until they are fully aware and taught about sex, and "think" they are in love, and have truly thought long and hard about it. I had a friend in high school that always preached at me, you need to "try the man on to see if he fits."
Then I had an aunt, who literally had a spouse that when she and her husband had sex, it made her cry, he was way too big for her. So I know for a fact, this can be an issue. It is not an old wives tale.
People are different sizes, and some don't fit. Anyway-I honestly feel you should at least be eighteen, at the very least. I feel if you are having sex at nine or ten, you need to get help. I truly don't feel you should be having sex at that young of an age, let alone desires.
But, when I had my first born at nineteen, there was a little girl in the clinic, she was eight or nine, and pregnant by her own Father. I was disgusted, and her mother was there with her, allowing her to carry it to term! No!
There is time and place for everything, you will know when it is right for you, because love is a magical thing, even puppy love!
Q. Are there places in every town to report sexual abuse?
Yes, simply call 911, or even 411, they can lead you in the right direction. If you are a child in School, go to your school counselor.
Q. What do I do if I really don't want to have sex yet, and my partner keeps pushing me?
Tell your partner, if he can't stop his desires, you can't be with him. If you think you love him, and think he loves you, you will both respect one another's opinions. There is no rush. DO NOT suggest your partner go satisfy his needs with another!
Q. What if my partner keeps refusing to use protection?
The same with the above statement, this person needs to respect your opinion. This is your body. Not your partners, you know what is best, and what is right. If you are a young teen perhaps going to a parent would be advised.
Q. What if it hurts every time I have sex?
You definitely need to see a doctor. This usually means you have some kind of sexually transmitted disease, STD or something. You need checked. And you need to do it right away. If it also hurts during urination, this is also a sign. It is time for medical attention. It can also mean that your partner and you are not the right fit, you need to find out exactly what it is making you hurt.
Q. What if I get pregnant and don't want to have it?
Go to your local planned parenthood, they will lead you in the right direction. If you don't believe in abortion, there are many of people out there who will want to adopt your baby.
Q. What if I gave birth, and don't want the baby anymore?
There are agencies that will help you. Planned parenthood will still help in this, as will local police and fire stations allow you to drop off your unwanted baby. They claim they will do this, without pressing charges, and asking questions. But before you decide this, I would advise contacting the Father. If you don't know who he is, ask your parents, maybe they would like to raise it, or know a family member that might. This way you can still see and love your child from a distance.
Q. Can sexual partners NOT fit one another?
Yes they can be two different sizes, and hurt. If you read everything else I wrote, you may recall the issue with my aunt and uncle. They were truly in love, and did not fit together sexually. Eventually they divorced because of this. People come in different shapes and sizes, both inside and out. This is nitrating to be ashamed of. It is very normal. Very small people, who stand 4 feet and under, are usually small inside. But not always! I am told, they can now cut the woman to make her bigger for her man. You should ask your doctor.
Q. Can you have intercourse during a yeast infection?
That is completely and totally up to you. HOWEVER, let it be known that you can spread the infection to the man, or so my Doctor told me. So I would think it wouldn't be wise to do so.
Q. Can you have oral sex on people that have STD's?
I wouldn't advise it. They say that they "think" that some of the diseases are not transfered through the mouth. However, if you have a cold sore, this makes you a herpes carrier, and if you have oral sex with this cold sore, you will give herpes to your significant other. I don't advise oral sex on anyone with diseases, you want to take care of yourself, that is not the proper way.
Q. How do you get yeast infections?
Mostly through taking antibiotics. There are other ways too, this is your bodies way of throwing away an infection and or germ. My advise to you, though. If you know you are going on antibiotics, start taking the over the counter Azo yeast prevention medication during if not before. It should help.
Q. How can you treat yeast infections?
You can buy the over the counter items in the female section of the store, and you can also douche with beta-dine. They also say eating yogurt helps. Azo has a yeast infection pill, and there are other ointments and creams, and inserts to take and do. Some for one day some for three, and some for seven, It depends on how much you want to spend, and how soon you want rid of the itchy pain.
Q. Can you douche during pregnancy?
When I was having kids long ago they said no. But I did, because I ended up with a yeast infection, and the only way I knew how to get rid of them was with the beta-dine douche solution. It is up to you, and of course your doctor.
Q. Can you still have intercourse during pregnancy?
Yes, in fact many doctors advise doing so. It is you and the father making love, and they say the baby feels the love, not as in touch, but emotional. If you are having complications during your pregnancy, I would suggest avoiding intercourse though.
I hope I have helped, someone. I am here if you have further questions, and would be glad to help. Please be advised, to seek professional help if you have any conditions or concerns of ANY type. Sex, and love, and sexual problems are normal, and a lot of people have them. Don't hide and hang your head in shame. Get help! Trust me you will be glad you did later, when you are cured. Live long and have sex often!
Published by Deneale K. Williams
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