A Few Tips to Protecting Yourself Online!
The world we live in today is much different from that of our parents,
and this has been the same dilemma with every generation. The world is
an ever changing place.
The changing of times, our ever growing World, the intelligence
factor, the increasing need for more and more technology and gadgets-
all of this; causes the need for an increased need in precautionary
factors.
Change is supposed to be a good thing. But let us not forget, for every action- there is always a reaction.
As we continue to grow and think we are bettering our self, and always
back in the far distance of each and every single one of our minds I am
certain there are some of us whom have actually wondered: "Are we
really doing the right thing."
Rather than assume it's too late for our own rescue, if in fact we are
making mistakes along our own destiny; what we can do to ensure things
go along smoothly in our life's endeavors is to take precautions with
our safety.
And rather than point out what "could be" errors along our paths, I would rather guide you safely along your journeys instead.
Does it sound as I'm talking in riddles? Perhaps maybe I am trying to
implant thoughts into your brains…..yes, that could be it.
Allow me to be transparent: I would like to further assist you along
your cyber-paths. I will start off small, to try and ease you into
seeing things you may be doing right or wrong with your internet life.
If you are new to the internet, or an expert yourself, something here
might just enlighten you. At least I hope so.
So let's begin:
1.) If you have never purchased a computer and plan to, before going
to buy one- I suggest taking someone to whom you trust. If you cannot
take someone with you, and you must deal with the sales person at the
store- do not let the sales associates push you around. Listen, ask
questions, and do not let them push you into things you do not want or
need. Do your researches first, check out what it is you're after or
want. Remember to ask questions, take in the information you need and
want. Yes, you need a warranty. And if you are buying a used unit, you
still need to try to get a warranty there too. And if you can get the
Windows & Microsoft Software included in your price you should do
that too. And if you're buying it used, be sure the versions are legal.
2.)When creating an email address, make it something you can remember,
something you won't be ashamed to share and tell your friends. Simple
is best; if you must use numbers, never use your house address or zip
code or even telephone number in your name. Here is a bad example: Jodi4021@yahoo
now let's look where Jodi lives. 4021 Lakewood. Not a good choice.
Predators will use this information to seek Jodi out and find her out.
Here is a better choice: Jodi_rainbow@yahoo now everyone knows
that Jodi likes and collect rainbows, and they can relate, and everyone
should remember this. This is a good choice for Jodi.
3.)Now let's go on to making your password. And let me start with the
simplest choice, do not use the word: "password" as your password ever.
This is a common hacker attempt and it will get found out. Also, do not
use your social security number, or any other number or word that anyone
who knows you can figure out. Your best bet, is to mix both letters and
numbers. Let's stick with Jodi for our character. You have her address,
and you know she likes rainbows. These are things people will look for
in her password. So let's think: 1PIcKLEs85913 Where did the numbers
come from? Jodi thinks pickles are number 1 in the worst foods category,
not the best, the worst. She was born in 85, she was 9 years old when
she was first kissed, and her Mother was 13 when she had her. She
figures that several of the numbers of most people will not know, this
should be a good choice. But the next bet is that she changes her
password once a week at least. It is fine to have a list of passwords to
use and re-use from time to time. Always remember it is a good idea to
mix lower case along with the capital letters as well as the numbers,
this will make it harder for hackers to compromise you.
4.)Now for the password retrieval questions. This is where it can
become tricky. Most of the password retrieval programs give you two
questions to choose from. Questions like: "What is the street you grew
up on." And you post your answer. Here is where you do not want to put
the right answer, because someone you know- might be able to figure out
your answers and retrieve your answers. You need to make your answers
something that you will remember, but something that no one will be able
to figure out. If they want your street, put your town. But you will
need to remember what it is you put, in order to retrieve the password
later. Also give yourself a back door, such as another email address
within the email address or a phone number. Always be prepared and make
it easiest and safest on you. Your safety is your main goal.
5.)When it comes to the internet, trust no one. Be cautious of
everyone and everything. Have your virus protector and firewall running.
And it is not an exaggerated statement when I say, just like the
"X-files" has tried pounding into everyone's skulls all of these years:
"Trust no one." The reason you need to do this is because your family
and friends "know" you more than people on the internet do. Therefore
secret questions and answers are a way into your net life. This is why I
cannot stress enough to make your net life as protected as possible.
6.)Social sites such as "myspace," "facebook," "twitter," and even
"myyearbook," are sure not to list your full address. I personally
suggest the State only, and if you really insist maybe just your City.
Nothing more. Never give your home address, and never think you can get a
PO Box address and it will make you safer. It will take nothing to have
a person sitting in the Post office branch waiting for you to pick up
your mail; if the person has nothing better to do than stalk you. If you
aren't there to chat, leave your chat off. If people message you, and
you don't wait to hear from them, you can easily block them. Do not
pursue them on your own, because most generally reporting them to social
networking sites- the sites do not care and generally do nothing. The
common misconception with social networking sites, is the fact that
"freedom of speech" tends to be an issue with postings. Most generally,
the only time sites will do anything is if vulgarity and porn are
involved. Otherwise, like I said- nothing gets done, so be prepared to
walk away and block yourself from any problem situations you may
encounter.
7.)Also be aware there are many ways to make money online, and many
are scams. So read thoroughly. Don't be afraid to ask questions, and say
no. The easiest and simplest, without investing is paid to write sites.
Someday, I will give you my insight on those!
These are my simple easy ways to begin your net experience. I didn't
want to put too much on your plate for a start, but I wanted to give you
something to help you get started.
I hope this has helped you!
Showing posts with label Education. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Education. Show all posts
Monday, August 4, 2014
Thursday, July 24, 2014
Review: FMU: Florida Metroplitan University: Melbourne Campus, Brevard County
Florida Metropolitan University: Melbourne Campus, Brevard County
P.S.~ FMU is now Everest University
Recently,
"I think" I remember Associated Content asking for information about
colleges. And since I am a college student, and a Mother, and also forty
two years old, I thought my insight might help someone. This is about
Florida Metropolitan University in Brevard County Florida. FMU is a
division of Corinthian Colleges.
I have not done any classes online, however one of my new best friends there, has. She says it is a bit more private, that you still submit work, but everyone in the online class can view it. And she says she hates that part, because she can't spell so swell. I told her to use spell check, but she also is not very computer literate. However, she is learning.
I truly enjoy the environment at FMU, the people are very one on one, and will help you. No one is any certain age, however yes- there are many students younger than me, a good majority. But there are also students older then me. I don't feel uncomfortable with my age, I truly thought I would. Actually, because I do not act my age, the students thought I was quite a bit younger, the average guess was in my mid thirties. I'm not trying to brag though.
They have several Dean's here, if you have problems, need counseling or what not. And the teachers, also will listen. The teachers and administrators are willing give you their email address, and expect to hear from you! The teachers give you their home phone numbers, cell phone numbers, and email addresses. You can also leave messages for them at the School, if you loose everything.
FMU, the head office, even designs their own college teaching materials, however some of it is- normal college items, such as algebra for example. You do have to take a test to enter, and a credit score is done on you. They speak with you one on one, and have day time, afternoon and evening hours, even week ends, to better suit whatever your scheduling needs may be.
There are tutors, mainly for algebra, as more people do not grasp that than do. Unfortunately, they have very few tutors, and the scheduling for that is limited to said tutors availability, not yours. That was where my complication lied. I was working and going to School, and decided to take algebra because a girl friend told me we could take it at the same time, and be study buddies. Unfortunately, low and behold, she didn't do what she promised. I ended up struggling through algebra on my own. My husband does not know algebra, and everyone who claimed they would help me, suddenly became unavailable and unwilling. But, thankfully, I passed it. I did all of the homework, and the extra credit, and that is what saved my butt.
I have been on the Deans list, which is A's and B's, and also the Presidents list, which is straight A's many of times. I am quite proud of that because I did lousy in School as a kid. I tutored many students in Computer class, because I am computer literate. I also learned a few new things in my computer class. I took several students home from time to time, and also helped a few study for tests, and gave them my notes when they were absent. I hardly ever missed a day of School. I also took my own Children to School with me, to show them, and to encourage them to learn. They are old enough, they sat through classes and listened and learned with me. My daughter even participated, and impressed several of my instructors, because she was literate in my field. (She helps me study, is why and how-in case you are wondering!)
I don't think college is for everyone. I had to get student aid, and had a co-payment. Nothing was free, like my family assumes and makes fun of me for. No, we paid and are paying for my education. My husband and I are firm believers in education. And because my education was took from me, yes took. I missed out on my entire senior year, and didn't get a real diploma. I tried to re-enroll, and get an education for many years, but the way I was wronged, was by expulsion. So, preaching get an education to my children, I felt I needed to set an example. I don't want to be one of those parents that say: "Do as I say, not as I do!" I went and took, and paid for my GED. It was a lot easier then I thought, and now my children know- education first, play time and goofing around next. Since then, I so far have raised two graduates and have the other three still in School, and heading there way through School.
I have spoke at my conferences, and meetings about education, and children. Because of FMU, they teach you to speak in public, write your own speeches, and what not. I used to fear speaking in public, and wouldn't do it. Now I will do it without question! And as far as education, my husband and I are firm believers it is the way to a brighter future. I truly hate seeing and knowing how Schools will just pass you along, to get rid of you. I had a friend I went to School with. He spent four years in the seventh grade, they tried and tried to teach him, they learned he couldn't read, and no one could teach him. Finally the Schools gave up. He can barely read now, sad to say.
Florida Metropolitan University is a good School. There is a woman who does the signing you up, her name is Simone Sembler, she is very good, and has made many peoples lives better by leading them into the right path of education. She has won awards for doing this too! The head of the CJ field is Helen Scrivner and she is point blank open and honest. She will help you in any way she can, and keep on you to keep up with your work, and not to slack off. She can also spot who will go far, and who is faking it, from the get go.
There was only one time where FMU disappointed me, it was during the Holidays, when they knew my family and I were without power. They get together and do gift baskets and help their own. Everyone asked them to help me, and they told all of my friends and family, that I was already on their list to help. They never helped. But after wards, they told everyone they did help us and for both Holidays, which was a bold face lie. I found that ordeal upsetting. But I of course lived through it, and moved on.
They also have a CJ club. So once you sign up for Criminal Justice you instantly become a member. At orientation, they have contests and things, and prizes with the FMU logo and are awarded. They try to make you feel like you truly are getting more for your money, and a whole new family that will love and help you!
Mind you, FMU offers other fields, like Business Management, and Film and Video, and nursing, and many more. I am not sure what all they offer, I know there is a lot though. Business Management is the only field that you can get a Masters in thus far. You can get both an Associate and Bachelors in everything else though. They are currently trying to change that, as we speak.
Also FMU has an Orlando campus, and I am not totally sure, but there may be others. So if you want to try or join a school that will make you feel like you belong, and help you learn and maintain your education, work around your schedule, give FMU a try. Look them up online, I know they have an online page. Trust me, you will be glad you did. This is where I belong!
Published by Deneale K. Williams
Thursday, July 10, 2014
Recognizing & Seeking Help for Children with Disabilities!
Recognizing and Seeking Help for Children with Disabilities
Children
are our future, and for most of us, they are our reason for being. But
when your child, starts having difficulties in school, you start to
worry. Sometimes you wonder if you did something wrong, and other times
you even tend to over react, and run to the doctor. But in many cases,
if your child has any kind of continuous difficulties, you as the
parent, know it more so, then anyone, because you live with that child
every minute of every day.
When the Teacher calls you, explaining
your child doesn't seem to want to learn, or has no interest, it could
be many things. Don't always jump to conclusions. After all, they claim
Albert Einstein couldn't even tie his shoes. There is a possibility you
could have a genius on your hands. And then there are rare cases, where
your child is just more casual or slower at the desired ability to
learn; then others.
However, they do claim it to be easier to teach our children almost anything- the younger they are. Children want to interact, and as long as you are paying attention to them, they will do whatever it takes to keep your attention on them, and them alone. Including reciting ABCs, and counting!
But again, every child is different. Just like anyone, and anything- no two are a like in every aspect of the way-no, not even twins.
It is when the phone calls from the Teacher start coming that your child is beating up others for no apparent reason, that you might want to pay attention more closely. Some preschools, and day cares, offer two way mirrors, so you can see in, but your child cannot see out. This is when you need to do your home work.
The reason is say this, is in preschool, day care, and maybe first and second grades-give your child the benefit of the doubt with their learning skills. But if violence becomes an issue, you want to:
one-nip this in the bud, and
two- find out what is making your child act out with said violence.
Sometimes the two go hand in hand. Other children- no matter what age, will pick on others that stutter when they read, or don't even bother to read. If your child isn't learning and isn't seeming to want to learn, and lashes out with violence, then this is where you need to start paying more attention, discreetly of course. However, on the same hand, yes you need to ask your child a few questions. "What is making you so angry?" Yes, it will seem like you are trying to play psychiatrist, but it all starts with you, and your home life. If the fact that your child cannot do something, such as reading or writing, or even math, then there is a possibility the two go hand in hand. And if the other children are in fact, making fun of your child- first thing I advise, is tutoring and working with your child one on one. If you cannot take time from work, School, or whatever it is that you do- you can easily hire someone. (On a more different subject here- please do thorough back ground checks when hiring help for your child.)
Once you or a tutor have started working with your child one on one, and you see, and hear, you will know if you need to advance onto help else where. This will help you as an insider to see if your child might have a learning disorder. If you feel you need advise, or help, you can easily go to the school counselor for help. They have a test, which can be given to your child to see if your child is academically inclined, or challenged.
Before I continue, something helpful I later learned, going through this on my own, was that if the parents one, or both had any kind of learning disability, chances are high that one or more children will have it as well. And no, I am not trying to blame the parents, and try to shift you into a fear scenario. It isn't something to pawn off blame, and regret. This is a normal every day thing, but back when I was a child, I was passed off as a trouble maker, or problem child. No one looked into it any further.
You see, when I was a child in the eighties, A.D.D. (Attention Deficit Disorder) and A.D.H.D. (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) were not known, or made known to the public. And when we would get hyper, or violent, we were severely punished, and reprimanded and nothing was looked into, as I stated above. No one put two and two together, no one cared about your up bringing, and no one thought that your inability to do math, or read so great, was causing you to lash out. Today is much different. And sadly, you hear some people say, yes, and we are using it as a crutch, or excuse. It isn't true, it's just that as we as humans grow and age and educate ourselves, science actually finds out why and puts things into perspective for us.
On a more personal note, my husband is a whiz at math, and has troubles with reading. I on the other hand, am the opposite. I hate and have troubles with math, and love to read and write. We have had five wonderful children, four boys and one girl. Two of our children have S.L.D. known as Slow Learning Disorder. One of these same two, has A.D.D. and the other has A.D.H.D. Now don't get me wrong, we do think that the older two, might have had a few disorders themselves too, but at that point and time, no one did their home work to help, even though I did bring it to the schools attention.
Science is not a miracle solution, and it doesn't always have all of the answers. But it can help guide you, and help you to help yourself and your child.
One thing that you need to do, is research, because there are many kinds of disabilities your children can have. And with each one, there are ways to handle them, and help them. You just need to recognize them. And if you want help, ask your doctor, or health care provider, as well as the School.
Mind you, with the School system- they are not always all willing and ready to jump through hoops for you, this we personally learned the hard way. In Ohio, we brought things to the attention of counselors and teachers.
Doctors were currently concerned and running tests too. But the School was holding us back, and not co-operating, to say the least. Then we moved here to Florida, where everyone warned me sarcastically, "You thought your kids were slow now, moving down South, they're going to be even slower. The Northern Schools are well more advanced. You'll see!" Low and behold, day two of our Children being in the Florida Schools, and Teachers had phoned home requesting conferences. Since we were new to the area, my husband and I both attended, and introduced ourselves. Within minutes, several teachers brought to our attention that our Children needed moved into the "slow" classes, and that they needed help. We didn't tell the School, didn't tell the teachers, the Teachers in two days time, figured it out- on their own. Now tell me, Southern Schools are lousy. This is where I beg to differ!!
That is why I am saying, it takes time to get the help, and recognize your Child's problems. It takes help, encouragement, and love. You will eventually be led to the right person or place.
Now to further help you, I want to help you to recognize the signs, or symptoms. But be forewarned, every Child is different, and the Child may not even show any of these signs or symptoms, and then again, the Child could show several. Here they are:
The Reading Disorder: This is when your Child is learning at a much slower or lower level then his or her age group. Sometimes they will read slowly, and then sometimes they will not even be able to tell you what they just read. You may have heard of dyslexia. Sometimes Children with reading disorders confuse words, or change them into other words, and sometimes even read and see what they want-especially if the book has pictures, they will try to put two and two together, rather then read.
The Mathematics Disorder: Sometimes the Child will be unable to read the numbers, add, subtract, borrow, and divide, and even multiply. Or maybe even; only one thing will be a hang up for them. Sometimes, as with words, they may read the numerals backwards. There are also times, where there are children that will be able to do the math, but not be able to tell you how or what it is that they did.
The Writing Disorder: Sometimes the Child may right off the bat, have very poor writing skills, but not always. Other things include the ability to write a paragraph, sentence or phrase to make it make sense, even when it is being read to them, or on a piece of paper beside them. They will have difficulty learning and understanding a noun from a verb, punctuation and common ways to write what is spoken.
Attention Deficit Disorder and/or Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder: The inability to sit still, or for long periods of time. Also, things such as inattentiveness, and hyperactivity. Children with this, have to learn, usually with the helps of medications, and practice as they grow older, how to help control these disabilities. Adults who have this, and have just learned they have it, most likely had it as a child as well. With this disability, you cannot sit still for long periods of time, go from project to project, and in some cases, lash out on and about things that most of us would not. These disabilities are not one in the same, but close.
The Hyperactivity one, most say is the more worst one to have. But again, this all depends on the individual. You can have a mixture of both of these disabilities, as they do have different types and variations. Your Doctor can further and better explain this to you. Also let it be known, that people with these disorders, commonly have the inability to fall asleep, and then there are rare cases, where some sleep when bored. But for the most part, getting tired and falling asleep, is something commonly found in these characteristics. Also there are rare cases of anger, sometimes even extreme; with these disabilities.
Children with these disabilities, when trying to learn, or even understand- will become frustrated. They may want to try, and more then likely it will seem no matter what, it just doesn't sink in. And yes, making what they have learned stay in their brains, train of thought, is also a disability. Because you see, these disabilities are in the brain, and parts of the brain are obviously not functioning properly.
The easiest ways to distinguish if your Child has a learning disability or disorder is simply by recognizing if they have trouble telling right from left, if they reverse letters and or numbers, and if they are incapable of following directions. Not to mention, the way they read, and write, and interact with others. This is why, in order to be properly diagnosed, you will need to be involved, because you as the parent will be asked questions, which will help the Professional figure out what is wrong. And to you, it may seem of the wall to want to know, "How soon your Child learned to use the bathroom without help, and when their first word was, as well as what it was." The Professional will need your input all the way through, and sometimes even into the pregnancy as well as your own Childhood. So stay focused, and stay involved.
Last but not least, there are treatments for these disorders. These, your Doctor will discuss with you, which one may be better for your Child. And once treatment is being done, you will still need to watch, because not all treatments work the same for everyone. You will need to take notes, and pay close attention. For each disorder, there may be a treatment more relevant. But in order to initiate the proper treatment, your families medical History will need be provided, as well as goals, procedures, and therapies. It will also depend on your Child's age, the specific type of disorder, and the extent of the disorder. When being issued new medications, there are always concerns of allergy, but that isn't all. It may or may not be effective, and it may not do what you had hoped. There is also an adjustment time with these medications. That is why I say to you, to watch, learn and take notes. I also advise researching your Child's disability, along with the medications. Know what it is inside and out.
And yes, in case you are wondering- there are people out there who refuse to put their Children on medication. And there are those who believe you can teach or retrain the mind to settle down, slow down, and calm down. Some people feel the medications for these disabilities, are an upper and/or a downer. Personally, because as I have explained- I have been down this road-I have tried the medications. My Son, became a walking zombie. And the sad part, is the School preferred him like this, so that they could attend to other Children and ignore my Son. By choice, through a long discussion with the Doctor, Counselor (not the School's) and my Spouse, as well as my Son and his siblings, we all felt it best to try an alternative approach. We took my Son off the medications, (which caused us further problems coming off of them.) and taught him, as if like a dog, to calm down, slow down, and sit still by speaking calmly to him. He struggled at first, but later learned on his own, how to calm himself when he was away from us. Yes, there are people with worse situations, a very angry child, a violent one, and what not. It also depends on the time you have on your hands, the willingness to work with your Child, and learning. I spent years learning all I could, that is how I can write this article. From experience first hand! You must always remember, for every ailment, every disability, every flaw in a person, you can adjust, help, and encourage. There are things that can be done- for the most part. You also have to keep the Doctor in the loop, you may find you and your family need counseling to adjust, and you must take notations, and learn along with these disabilities and disorders. As a parent, you are the main teacher, and educator. Don't just give medications and walk away satisfied. Watch, learn and listen. Nothing is perfect, and the cure won't be permanent either. Some prescriptions get recalled, some get adjusted, some don't work, and then they make new ones. And let's not forget, after sometime on one medication, your body can become immune to it. Take every precaution, and always be aware!
And as you are reading this, and if you are wondering if you are to blame, and if there was a way this could be avoided- know this: no one is to blame. But, it is best to have learned and recognized the problems as early as possible.
Children with disabilities can still grow up, become famous, and amount to anything their little heart desires. This is not the end of the World, and in the end, you and your Child- will be grateful you did discover it, because there are places in the World that can help. There are classes in most Schools, to help and give your Child one on one, and most of all- there is you.
Also, before I close. Let it be known, that Adults can also have these disabilities. Not just from Childhood either. However, chances are high that these disabilities, or disorders, which ever phrase you prefer, did in fact come from their Childhood as well.
Disclaimer: I am not a medical professional. I wrote this because if I had trouble getting help, and seeing what was wrong- then there are probably others out there too. What I wrote, was from me, and no one else. I wrote from my own knowledge base of what I went through with my Children. Once it was finally discovered, I then learned and educated myself further on the disabilities, and have since helped others to recognize problems and concerns. I am not a medical professional, and never claimed to be one. I am simply experienced at this, as per my article states; seek the help of your health care provider or Counselors, to further assist you on this matter.
However, they do claim it to be easier to teach our children almost anything- the younger they are. Children want to interact, and as long as you are paying attention to them, they will do whatever it takes to keep your attention on them, and them alone. Including reciting ABCs, and counting!
But again, every child is different. Just like anyone, and anything- no two are a like in every aspect of the way-no, not even twins.
It is when the phone calls from the Teacher start coming that your child is beating up others for no apparent reason, that you might want to pay attention more closely. Some preschools, and day cares, offer two way mirrors, so you can see in, but your child cannot see out. This is when you need to do your home work.
The reason is say this, is in preschool, day care, and maybe first and second grades-give your child the benefit of the doubt with their learning skills. But if violence becomes an issue, you want to:
one-nip this in the bud, and
two- find out what is making your child act out with said violence.
Sometimes the two go hand in hand. Other children- no matter what age, will pick on others that stutter when they read, or don't even bother to read. If your child isn't learning and isn't seeming to want to learn, and lashes out with violence, then this is where you need to start paying more attention, discreetly of course. However, on the same hand, yes you need to ask your child a few questions. "What is making you so angry?" Yes, it will seem like you are trying to play psychiatrist, but it all starts with you, and your home life. If the fact that your child cannot do something, such as reading or writing, or even math, then there is a possibility the two go hand in hand. And if the other children are in fact, making fun of your child- first thing I advise, is tutoring and working with your child one on one. If you cannot take time from work, School, or whatever it is that you do- you can easily hire someone. (On a more different subject here- please do thorough back ground checks when hiring help for your child.)
Once you or a tutor have started working with your child one on one, and you see, and hear, you will know if you need to advance onto help else where. This will help you as an insider to see if your child might have a learning disorder. If you feel you need advise, or help, you can easily go to the school counselor for help. They have a test, which can be given to your child to see if your child is academically inclined, or challenged.
Before I continue, something helpful I later learned, going through this on my own, was that if the parents one, or both had any kind of learning disability, chances are high that one or more children will have it as well. And no, I am not trying to blame the parents, and try to shift you into a fear scenario. It isn't something to pawn off blame, and regret. This is a normal every day thing, but back when I was a child, I was passed off as a trouble maker, or problem child. No one looked into it any further.
You see, when I was a child in the eighties, A.D.D. (Attention Deficit Disorder) and A.D.H.D. (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) were not known, or made known to the public. And when we would get hyper, or violent, we were severely punished, and reprimanded and nothing was looked into, as I stated above. No one put two and two together, no one cared about your up bringing, and no one thought that your inability to do math, or read so great, was causing you to lash out. Today is much different. And sadly, you hear some people say, yes, and we are using it as a crutch, or excuse. It isn't true, it's just that as we as humans grow and age and educate ourselves, science actually finds out why and puts things into perspective for us.
On a more personal note, my husband is a whiz at math, and has troubles with reading. I on the other hand, am the opposite. I hate and have troubles with math, and love to read and write. We have had five wonderful children, four boys and one girl. Two of our children have S.L.D. known as Slow Learning Disorder. One of these same two, has A.D.D. and the other has A.D.H.D. Now don't get me wrong, we do think that the older two, might have had a few disorders themselves too, but at that point and time, no one did their home work to help, even though I did bring it to the schools attention.
Science is not a miracle solution, and it doesn't always have all of the answers. But it can help guide you, and help you to help yourself and your child.
One thing that you need to do, is research, because there are many kinds of disabilities your children can have. And with each one, there are ways to handle them, and help them. You just need to recognize them. And if you want help, ask your doctor, or health care provider, as well as the School.
Mind you, with the School system- they are not always all willing and ready to jump through hoops for you, this we personally learned the hard way. In Ohio, we brought things to the attention of counselors and teachers.
Doctors were currently concerned and running tests too. But the School was holding us back, and not co-operating, to say the least. Then we moved here to Florida, where everyone warned me sarcastically, "You thought your kids were slow now, moving down South, they're going to be even slower. The Northern Schools are well more advanced. You'll see!" Low and behold, day two of our Children being in the Florida Schools, and Teachers had phoned home requesting conferences. Since we were new to the area, my husband and I both attended, and introduced ourselves. Within minutes, several teachers brought to our attention that our Children needed moved into the "slow" classes, and that they needed help. We didn't tell the School, didn't tell the teachers, the Teachers in two days time, figured it out- on their own. Now tell me, Southern Schools are lousy. This is where I beg to differ!!
That is why I am saying, it takes time to get the help, and recognize your Child's problems. It takes help, encouragement, and love. You will eventually be led to the right person or place.
Now to further help you, I want to help you to recognize the signs, or symptoms. But be forewarned, every Child is different, and the Child may not even show any of these signs or symptoms, and then again, the Child could show several. Here they are:
The Reading Disorder: This is when your Child is learning at a much slower or lower level then his or her age group. Sometimes they will read slowly, and then sometimes they will not even be able to tell you what they just read. You may have heard of dyslexia. Sometimes Children with reading disorders confuse words, or change them into other words, and sometimes even read and see what they want-especially if the book has pictures, they will try to put two and two together, rather then read.
The Mathematics Disorder: Sometimes the Child will be unable to read the numbers, add, subtract, borrow, and divide, and even multiply. Or maybe even; only one thing will be a hang up for them. Sometimes, as with words, they may read the numerals backwards. There are also times, where there are children that will be able to do the math, but not be able to tell you how or what it is that they did.
The Writing Disorder: Sometimes the Child may right off the bat, have very poor writing skills, but not always. Other things include the ability to write a paragraph, sentence or phrase to make it make sense, even when it is being read to them, or on a piece of paper beside them. They will have difficulty learning and understanding a noun from a verb, punctuation and common ways to write what is spoken.
Attention Deficit Disorder and/or Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder: The inability to sit still, or for long periods of time. Also, things such as inattentiveness, and hyperactivity. Children with this, have to learn, usually with the helps of medications, and practice as they grow older, how to help control these disabilities. Adults who have this, and have just learned they have it, most likely had it as a child as well. With this disability, you cannot sit still for long periods of time, go from project to project, and in some cases, lash out on and about things that most of us would not. These disabilities are not one in the same, but close.
The Hyperactivity one, most say is the more worst one to have. But again, this all depends on the individual. You can have a mixture of both of these disabilities, as they do have different types and variations. Your Doctor can further and better explain this to you. Also let it be known, that people with these disorders, commonly have the inability to fall asleep, and then there are rare cases, where some sleep when bored. But for the most part, getting tired and falling asleep, is something commonly found in these characteristics. Also there are rare cases of anger, sometimes even extreme; with these disabilities.
Children with these disabilities, when trying to learn, or even understand- will become frustrated. They may want to try, and more then likely it will seem no matter what, it just doesn't sink in. And yes, making what they have learned stay in their brains, train of thought, is also a disability. Because you see, these disabilities are in the brain, and parts of the brain are obviously not functioning properly.
The easiest ways to distinguish if your Child has a learning disability or disorder is simply by recognizing if they have trouble telling right from left, if they reverse letters and or numbers, and if they are incapable of following directions. Not to mention, the way they read, and write, and interact with others. This is why, in order to be properly diagnosed, you will need to be involved, because you as the parent will be asked questions, which will help the Professional figure out what is wrong. And to you, it may seem of the wall to want to know, "How soon your Child learned to use the bathroom without help, and when their first word was, as well as what it was." The Professional will need your input all the way through, and sometimes even into the pregnancy as well as your own Childhood. So stay focused, and stay involved.
Last but not least, there are treatments for these disorders. These, your Doctor will discuss with you, which one may be better for your Child. And once treatment is being done, you will still need to watch, because not all treatments work the same for everyone. You will need to take notes, and pay close attention. For each disorder, there may be a treatment more relevant. But in order to initiate the proper treatment, your families medical History will need be provided, as well as goals, procedures, and therapies. It will also depend on your Child's age, the specific type of disorder, and the extent of the disorder. When being issued new medications, there are always concerns of allergy, but that isn't all. It may or may not be effective, and it may not do what you had hoped. There is also an adjustment time with these medications. That is why I say to you, to watch, learn and take notes. I also advise researching your Child's disability, along with the medications. Know what it is inside and out.
And yes, in case you are wondering- there are people out there who refuse to put their Children on medication. And there are those who believe you can teach or retrain the mind to settle down, slow down, and calm down. Some people feel the medications for these disabilities, are an upper and/or a downer. Personally, because as I have explained- I have been down this road-I have tried the medications. My Son, became a walking zombie. And the sad part, is the School preferred him like this, so that they could attend to other Children and ignore my Son. By choice, through a long discussion with the Doctor, Counselor (not the School's) and my Spouse, as well as my Son and his siblings, we all felt it best to try an alternative approach. We took my Son off the medications, (which caused us further problems coming off of them.) and taught him, as if like a dog, to calm down, slow down, and sit still by speaking calmly to him. He struggled at first, but later learned on his own, how to calm himself when he was away from us. Yes, there are people with worse situations, a very angry child, a violent one, and what not. It also depends on the time you have on your hands, the willingness to work with your Child, and learning. I spent years learning all I could, that is how I can write this article. From experience first hand! You must always remember, for every ailment, every disability, every flaw in a person, you can adjust, help, and encourage. There are things that can be done- for the most part. You also have to keep the Doctor in the loop, you may find you and your family need counseling to adjust, and you must take notations, and learn along with these disabilities and disorders. As a parent, you are the main teacher, and educator. Don't just give medications and walk away satisfied. Watch, learn and listen. Nothing is perfect, and the cure won't be permanent either. Some prescriptions get recalled, some get adjusted, some don't work, and then they make new ones. And let's not forget, after sometime on one medication, your body can become immune to it. Take every precaution, and always be aware!
And as you are reading this, and if you are wondering if you are to blame, and if there was a way this could be avoided- know this: no one is to blame. But, it is best to have learned and recognized the problems as early as possible.
Children with disabilities can still grow up, become famous, and amount to anything their little heart desires. This is not the end of the World, and in the end, you and your Child- will be grateful you did discover it, because there are places in the World that can help. There are classes in most Schools, to help and give your Child one on one, and most of all- there is you.
Also, before I close. Let it be known, that Adults can also have these disabilities. Not just from Childhood either. However, chances are high that these disabilities, or disorders, which ever phrase you prefer, did in fact come from their Childhood as well.
Disclaimer: I am not a medical professional. I wrote this because if I had trouble getting help, and seeing what was wrong- then there are probably others out there too. What I wrote, was from me, and no one else. I wrote from my own knowledge base of what I went through with my Children. Once it was finally discovered, I then learned and educated myself further on the disabilities, and have since helped others to recognize problems and concerns. I am not a medical professional, and never claimed to be one. I am simply experienced at this, as per my article states; seek the help of your health care provider or Counselors, to further assist you on this matter.
Published by Deneale K. Williams
Wednesday, July 9, 2014
A Few Opinions on FCAT!
A Few Opinions on FCAT!
The Florida Comprehensive Assessment Test
The
FCAT (Florida Comprehensive Assessment Test) is a test that is issued
to Students throughout the state of Florida, except for private
scholars. Students that are tested are in grades three through eleven.
Students within the public school system are tested, the grades of all
students are compiled, and then the School is listed and graded as
such. Grades are A through F. And the higher the Schools score, the more
funding the School gets.
A student who fails the tenth grade FCAT has the risk of not graduating. However, the student can retake the test five different times.
The FCAT is given to students in separate parts. During said FCAT testing, class schedules are rearranged, and no other activities "usually" go on so as not to "stress" the students. Teachers, during the testing time frame often are known to bring in snacks that give energy. Sometimes they also bring in drinks or healthy foods, in order to keep the children focused.
Students hate the FCAT, I have interviewed many, and the results are always the same. I interviewed students that get good grades, and ones that struggle. I wanted fair answers; and found the answers were always the same.
"I hate FCAT, and I think it sucks that we have to compete with other Schools. Who cares, all we need and want is an education. Comparing us, isn't fair at all, not every teacher is alike, and the teachers teach differently." From a sixth grader.
"All the teachers care about is FCAT. They don't care if we learn anything else!" From an eleventh grader.
"The school stresses pass the test. I hate tests. And I get good grades. But when it comes time to test, I freak out. I don't find this fair, let alone logical." Student grade twelve.
After listening to the complaints from students, I went to teachers. And they had no problems answering, especially since their names wouldn't be used. Here is what several said:
"As you may hear, FCAT is what the board of education makes us focus on. Not learning, not teaching. It's a numbers game, and they want to make it look like they are doing something." This was from a high school teacher.
"The FCAT puts the kids under a lot of unnecessary stress. You get to hear how the kids hate FCAT, well so do the teachers." From a fourth grade teacher.
As a parent, I know that I hate it. My kids get attitudes during FCAT. They are drained, and in terrible moods. And so I thought, well why not ask a few parents too. I mean, my idea when I started writing this, is to make you the public, open up your eyes, and help. Maybe if there are more people who see, do and know, maybe we can do something.
Anyway, here is what the parents are saying:
"FCAT is a fraud. All it is, is a competition, a numbers game. Something to use, to give rewards to Schools, to make the School feel worthy." A mother to three kids, ages: eleven, thirteen and fifteen.
"FCAT stresses my kids out like you would not believe. My daughter gets straight A's and on honor roll. The FCAT makes her angry, and she doesn't score very high. I don't understand the scoring, other than the fact they compare the students against one another, and their school. Then they compare them to other Schools. I don't think it is a good kind of competition." From a Mother to two, a daughter age seventeen, and son age twelve.
"I can't stand FCAT; it is too much stress on everyone." From a mother to six kids.
I decided to research FCAT online, and my favorite source for learning anything is: Wikipedia. And I read through the article, and then scrolled down to criticism. This was my favorite:
Though the system is designed to reward public schools for excellence in teaching, many educators and community members have criticized the program, claiming that the program takes funding from schools which need it most. It has also been criticized by many students and teachers because the schools put too much emphasis on the FCAT and not enough on preparing students for the real world.
Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/FCAT
That section on criticism is very true. And I am glad that Wikipedia knows and posted that section on criticism, the truth from the public's eye.
Something needs done about FCAT. I'm not exactly saying it needs to go, but the teachers and the School, need to realize- there are many other things to learn, not just the FCAT!
A student who fails the tenth grade FCAT has the risk of not graduating. However, the student can retake the test five different times.
The FCAT is given to students in separate parts. During said FCAT testing, class schedules are rearranged, and no other activities "usually" go on so as not to "stress" the students. Teachers, during the testing time frame often are known to bring in snacks that give energy. Sometimes they also bring in drinks or healthy foods, in order to keep the children focused.
Students hate the FCAT, I have interviewed many, and the results are always the same. I interviewed students that get good grades, and ones that struggle. I wanted fair answers; and found the answers were always the same.
"I hate FCAT, and I think it sucks that we have to compete with other Schools. Who cares, all we need and want is an education. Comparing us, isn't fair at all, not every teacher is alike, and the teachers teach differently." From a sixth grader.
"All the teachers care about is FCAT. They don't care if we learn anything else!" From an eleventh grader.
"The school stresses pass the test. I hate tests. And I get good grades. But when it comes time to test, I freak out. I don't find this fair, let alone logical." Student grade twelve.
After listening to the complaints from students, I went to teachers. And they had no problems answering, especially since their names wouldn't be used. Here is what several said:
"As you may hear, FCAT is what the board of education makes us focus on. Not learning, not teaching. It's a numbers game, and they want to make it look like they are doing something." This was from a high school teacher.
"The FCAT puts the kids under a lot of unnecessary stress. You get to hear how the kids hate FCAT, well so do the teachers." From a fourth grade teacher.
As a parent, I know that I hate it. My kids get attitudes during FCAT. They are drained, and in terrible moods. And so I thought, well why not ask a few parents too. I mean, my idea when I started writing this, is to make you the public, open up your eyes, and help. Maybe if there are more people who see, do and know, maybe we can do something.
Anyway, here is what the parents are saying:
"FCAT is a fraud. All it is, is a competition, a numbers game. Something to use, to give rewards to Schools, to make the School feel worthy." A mother to three kids, ages: eleven, thirteen and fifteen.
"FCAT stresses my kids out like you would not believe. My daughter gets straight A's and on honor roll. The FCAT makes her angry, and she doesn't score very high. I don't understand the scoring, other than the fact they compare the students against one another, and their school. Then they compare them to other Schools. I don't think it is a good kind of competition." From a Mother to two, a daughter age seventeen, and son age twelve.
"I can't stand FCAT; it is too much stress on everyone." From a mother to six kids.
I decided to research FCAT online, and my favorite source for learning anything is: Wikipedia. And I read through the article, and then scrolled down to criticism. This was my favorite:
Though the system is designed to reward public schools for excellence in teaching, many educators and community members have criticized the program, claiming that the program takes funding from schools which need it most. It has also been criticized by many students and teachers because the schools put too much emphasis on the FCAT and not enough on preparing students for the real world.
Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/FCAT
That section on criticism is very true. And I am glad that Wikipedia knows and posted that section on criticism, the truth from the public's eye.
Something needs done about FCAT. I'm not exactly saying it needs to go, but the teachers and the School, need to realize- there are many other things to learn, not just the FCAT!
Published by Deneale K. Williams
Friday, July 4, 2014
How to Prepare Your Child for Kindergarten
How to Prepare Your Child for Kindergarten
When
you have kids, you love them, and protect them. They are your life, and
everything that you live for. You keep them innocent for as long as you
can.....
That is until they have to go to Public School!!
The first day of Kindergarten is stressful for both the Child and the adult. And believe it or not, the child can tell, if you are upset too.
The first thing you need to do, is be strong, and try not to show that you will miss your child. Be happy and proud for your child, they are growing up!
And don't think just because you cried, or were upset with the first child, that it won't happen with the second child, because I have had 5, and it upset me each and every time!
It is scary for both the child and you......
Why?
You have to worry about the "real" World changing your child, teaching him or her bad things, and then you will worry about how you can unteach the corruption from the other children. With you, you could choose what your child learned and knew. In School, it's not just the other children, it's the teachers as well.
Your child is going to worry, if it is safe without you. After all, most of us taught our children not to talk to strangers, yet here you are throwing your child right into a group of them! Your child is going to worry about making friends, and will he or she be as smart as the other children, to say the least.
It is best to prepare your child. Have a sit down every few days before School starts. And not in the format of a lecture. Pull up a chair, and a coloring book, and color together. Nonchalantly as the two of you are talking, bring up the subject of School.
"You're so lucky, Timmy. When I was in School, I loved it! I had so many friends! My favorite class was gym. I wonder what yours will be?"
This opens a door for discussion, and then it eases the pain. Your child thinks about your times, what you did, and how you want him or her to go, and how you miss it.
Do not sit there, reminiscing about the bad times, when you were in the Principals office getting swats or what not! This is not going to be a positive affect if you do this!
Children love to hear stories of our own Childhood. It makes us as the Parents seem more realistic. Not just a Mommy and Daddy figure. And if you can make the transition from being a baby, and a toddler to a School kid any easier, you will not regret it in the long run.
Once you take your child to School the first day, do not get emotional. Simply take him or her in, introduce them to the teacher, (thus resolving the "stranger" issue) and ask the teacher where your child should sit. Hopefully there will be another child there sitting too, so once you sit your child down- maybe it can make a friend right off. If no one is there, or you are even too early, maybe the teacher will let you sit down a few minutes with your child and wait. Show no fear, don't cry, and don't act like you are in a rush, and can't wait to get away. You too, need to relax. If your child starts talking to someone else, let them. Don't interfere. Once your child gets wrapped up in another conversation, try to sneak away. Hopefully your child won't even notice.
If your child is a crier, and insists that you stay, chances have it, your child will not be the only one. Most kindergarten teachers will allow the parents to stay, to make the transition easier on everyone, including the teacher. Remember to relax, and most of all, act proud that your child is going to School. Smile, and be patient. There will be a time when the time is right, to leave, you will know.
If the crying and not wanting you to leave lasts more then two days, there are some serious issues that need resolved. You need to put your foot down, you need to enforce that it is time for your child to grow up, that he or she cannot be a baby any longer. Keep using the word baby. No, it is not 'name calling!" You are simply pointing out that once you are no longer a baby, there are things you are expected to do. Point out things that babies do, they get baby bottles, breast fed, and diapers. Now point out that your child no longer needs these things. But instead, your child now needs Schooling.
Explain intensely the purpose of School. To educate and grow up and maybe become a Doctor or Nurse. Or how about a fireman? Build ideas in your child's head, things that he or she can do and be when they grow up. Talk about recess, friends, and gym class. If you have a neighbor friend that attends School, remind your child of this. Even a relative who attends School. Point out how much fun they have, and how they get to play and do things. While you're at it, if your child can spell his or her name, or even count and say its ABC's. remind them, they might need to help their friends learn that. Point out to your child that you educated them a little in advance before School started to help them out. Make it seem interesting that they will be able to share what they have already learned, and maybe even help the teacher! Keeping positive is always a good way to get what you want or need as a Parent in most any case.
A friend of mine, had problems with her Child, and became so fed up, that she put her five year old back into the diaper and made a bottle and put her to bed, without TV. Then when company came, she pointed out that her daughter could not come out and play or visit, that she was choosing to be a baby, and refusing to go to School. Her child whimpered and cried in the bed, and eventually fell to sleep. When the Mothers alarm went off for School the next morning, she walked into her daughters room and asked, "So what's it going to be Baby?" Her daughter answered with, "I want to go to School Mommy, I'm a big girl!"
As with anything, each Child is different, just like you and I. It also depends, because we all have different rules, and how we raise our Children. Everyone has different techniques and we could sit here all day reminiscing and discussing them. You simply have to find your niche, and learn from it. And if you have more then one child, remember this: no two are alike. If you think you have it mastered, trust me-- you don't!
The first day of Kindergarten is stressful for both the Child and the adult. And believe it or not, the child can tell, if you are upset too.
The first thing you need to do, is be strong, and try not to show that you will miss your child. Be happy and proud for your child, they are growing up!
And don't think just because you cried, or were upset with the first child, that it won't happen with the second child, because I have had 5, and it upset me each and every time!
It is scary for both the child and you......
Why?
You have to worry about the "real" World changing your child, teaching him or her bad things, and then you will worry about how you can unteach the corruption from the other children. With you, you could choose what your child learned and knew. In School, it's not just the other children, it's the teachers as well.
Your child is going to worry, if it is safe without you. After all, most of us taught our children not to talk to strangers, yet here you are throwing your child right into a group of them! Your child is going to worry about making friends, and will he or she be as smart as the other children, to say the least.
It is best to prepare your child. Have a sit down every few days before School starts. And not in the format of a lecture. Pull up a chair, and a coloring book, and color together. Nonchalantly as the two of you are talking, bring up the subject of School.
"You're so lucky, Timmy. When I was in School, I loved it! I had so many friends! My favorite class was gym. I wonder what yours will be?"
This opens a door for discussion, and then it eases the pain. Your child thinks about your times, what you did, and how you want him or her to go, and how you miss it.
Do not sit there, reminiscing about the bad times, when you were in the Principals office getting swats or what not! This is not going to be a positive affect if you do this!
Children love to hear stories of our own Childhood. It makes us as the Parents seem more realistic. Not just a Mommy and Daddy figure. And if you can make the transition from being a baby, and a toddler to a School kid any easier, you will not regret it in the long run.
Once you take your child to School the first day, do not get emotional. Simply take him or her in, introduce them to the teacher, (thus resolving the "stranger" issue) and ask the teacher where your child should sit. Hopefully there will be another child there sitting too, so once you sit your child down- maybe it can make a friend right off. If no one is there, or you are even too early, maybe the teacher will let you sit down a few minutes with your child and wait. Show no fear, don't cry, and don't act like you are in a rush, and can't wait to get away. You too, need to relax. If your child starts talking to someone else, let them. Don't interfere. Once your child gets wrapped up in another conversation, try to sneak away. Hopefully your child won't even notice.
If your child is a crier, and insists that you stay, chances have it, your child will not be the only one. Most kindergarten teachers will allow the parents to stay, to make the transition easier on everyone, including the teacher. Remember to relax, and most of all, act proud that your child is going to School. Smile, and be patient. There will be a time when the time is right, to leave, you will know.
If the crying and not wanting you to leave lasts more then two days, there are some serious issues that need resolved. You need to put your foot down, you need to enforce that it is time for your child to grow up, that he or she cannot be a baby any longer. Keep using the word baby. No, it is not 'name calling!" You are simply pointing out that once you are no longer a baby, there are things you are expected to do. Point out things that babies do, they get baby bottles, breast fed, and diapers. Now point out that your child no longer needs these things. But instead, your child now needs Schooling.
Explain intensely the purpose of School. To educate and grow up and maybe become a Doctor or Nurse. Or how about a fireman? Build ideas in your child's head, things that he or she can do and be when they grow up. Talk about recess, friends, and gym class. If you have a neighbor friend that attends School, remind your child of this. Even a relative who attends School. Point out how much fun they have, and how they get to play and do things. While you're at it, if your child can spell his or her name, or even count and say its ABC's. remind them, they might need to help their friends learn that. Point out to your child that you educated them a little in advance before School started to help them out. Make it seem interesting that they will be able to share what they have already learned, and maybe even help the teacher! Keeping positive is always a good way to get what you want or need as a Parent in most any case.
A friend of mine, had problems with her Child, and became so fed up, that she put her five year old back into the diaper and made a bottle and put her to bed, without TV. Then when company came, she pointed out that her daughter could not come out and play or visit, that she was choosing to be a baby, and refusing to go to School. Her child whimpered and cried in the bed, and eventually fell to sleep. When the Mothers alarm went off for School the next morning, she walked into her daughters room and asked, "So what's it going to be Baby?" Her daughter answered with, "I want to go to School Mommy, I'm a big girl!"
As with anything, each Child is different, just like you and I. It also depends, because we all have different rules, and how we raise our Children. Everyone has different techniques and we could sit here all day reminiscing and discussing them. You simply have to find your niche, and learn from it. And if you have more then one child, remember this: no two are alike. If you think you have it mastered, trust me-- you don't!
Published by Deneale K. Williams
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