My Beliefs & Thoughts About God & the Past Or Present?!

My Beliefs & Thoughts About God & the Past

Or Present?!

Deneale K. Williams, Yahoo Contributor Network
Aug 15, 2007

God is a very sensitive and touchy subject, so when speaking aloud of Him, one must be careful how things are worded. On paper it is a little easier.

 

I am writing about God today because, for one, yes I believe in Him. For two, I am having a problem with those who don't, and want to rearrange our lives and make us remove it from our currency and pledge. I see no reason they just can't ignore it, as they have done in the past. We as humans have believed in God, more then we have not believed, because the non belief didn't come into play until much later.

Don't get me wrong, I do question the bible from time to time, because yes, it does contradict itself in more then one instance. But in all realization, if it is man writing down what God is saying, then of course it will contradict itself-for one-think about this. We, as mankind are not perfect! For two, have you yourself ever written or typed something, and one of your kids come up to you, and asks you a question.

You type, as you're writing, "not now, I'm busy, give me a minute." So let's say Moses is writing what God told him to write, and then his wife asks him something. Let's say they even discussed her question. Then he goes back to writing, it and "what is it God said? Oh yeah, something about bread...what was it?"

I am one of the few who believe evolution and in God, most don't believe in both. But I do, and let me tell you why. The Dinosaurs and the cave men, were Adam and Eve. It is one in the same, in my eyes anyway. The creatures they ate and lived upon were dinosaurs. And the ice age, was perhaps when the flooding took place, because after all, of course we are going to have a flood, after the ice melts. Think about this.

The past is always something that interests me. History, including the bible, because someone had the decency to write it, so we knew it happened. When I was a kid in School, it bored me, until I finally had a teacher that knew how to teach it, to intrigue you. The past of mankind, whether it be biblical or not, is something we all need to learn and know, because we can grow from it, and correct the mistakes we have made in the past.

You often hear of people asking, "If God exists then why did he let this happen to me? Why didn't he just let me die?!" There is always a reason. Perhaps that person needed to make amends with a family member. Perhaps in that persons crippled state, they were supposed to teach others, as did Christopher Reeve. He shared his life, his dilemma, still acted, and tried to encourage others to go on, and not just others who were also less fortunate.

But anyone who had a problem, to take a bite out of that problem, examine it, and your life, and makes the best of it. Helen Keller was blind; she still made an example and succeeded. As I have mentioned, none of us are perfect. But we are all here, in this spot, place and time for a reason. A reason that might not be visible to us, but there always is one.

They say that God has a plan for us all. He has previously mapped out our lives. That I do not believe in. I think God simply watches us, mistakes and all, and lets us make up our own minds, and learn from our own mistakes. He has no plan; He is just watching and learning with us.

Then there is mythology, where they mention several Gods. I also believe in that, and think that when there was, or is our God, there were more then one, which is why He mentioned He wanted no other Gods before Him. As you can well enough see, my beliefs are strange. But I am sure that I am not alone.

I also believe that there is life on other planets. Perhaps each God chose and made a planet, and made a species of their own, to watch it evolve and grow. And now the species, including mankind, are visiting the other planets to see, and learn. And compliments of the movies that mankind makes, if an Alien were to come here, that Aliens chance of living to tell about it, are slim to none. And again, in all honesty, along with my beliefs, I believe there is an area 51, and we have already taken hostage and alien and dissected it.

Regarding the Egyptians and how they made pyramids, I think there is a possibly that the Egyptians were more evolved then we give them credit. If you read past Egyptian writings, and relics and different things about the bible, including the bible code book, computers were around before we even thought or imagined them. So if computers were in our past, long before we thought to invent them, obviously there were other technologies as well. A strange belief that I have, is that evolution, and our time span are doing a circle.

And repeating itself. I think there is a possible that the UFO's and visitors to our planet are not in fact visitors, but people time traveling from our past, and I think it could be the Egyptians. They are time traveling, implanting their seeds into people from the future and trying to keep the human race from killing itself off. (If there is in fact proof of human being impregnated when they have been abducted.) I think one reason, is perhaps when King Tut knew he was dying, perhaps he wanted an heir if you will, someone from his family history to go on. Maybe the relics will tell us this, maybe the relics and Egyptian drawings already have.

There is so much about our past, present and future that superiors keep secret, one would really never know the truth. And that is part of the problem. Maybe I have a huge imagination, and am bored. Maybe it is the truth, and there are people out there who just don't want us to know, because they "think" we can't handle the truth.

Anyway, this is some of the things I believe in, because I have an open mind, and am willing to go with the flow and grow with it. Technology and time, is for change. One must be willing to go and grow with it. And the mind is a terrible thing to waste, even if this is all my imagination, at least my imagination works!

Published by Deneale K. Williams

Caring for the Morbidly Obese: Compassion is the Key

Caring for the Morbidly Obese: Compassion is Key

Deneale K. Williams, Yahoo Contributor Network
Oct 5, 2007

I am writing this, because people need to reconsider how they look at things. Not all of us are perfect, and each person is an individual.

 

 

I have taken care of many people in my life. I have taken a few under my wing, including children and housed them. I have counseled and changed lives of those around me, even as I type this. I am a giver, not a taker.

I feel that all people need to know how to take care of an obese person. You can even help them to start dropping pounds-in the event that they ever have or want to. And with today, the way people are-humanity is larger then it has ever been. And I meant this not just in the population sense, but also in the body size department.

Before I begin though, since we as people are so very judgmental, I want to familiarize you with the term obese. Therefore I looked up the definition and found it for you: 

Obese:Well above ones normal weight. A person has traditionally been considered to be obese if they are more than 20 percent over their ideal weight. That ideal weight must take into account the person's height, age, sex, and build. This definition was found online at MedicineNet.com and it continues with details. You see, a person who stands only four foot five, and weighs in at one hundred and eighty pounds, with the BMI index that they use, this person can be considered obese. Now to further familiarize you with BMI, on the same web sight, I looked up BMI, so that you can understand what it is.  




Body mass index:A key index for relating a person's body weight to their height. The body mass index (BMI) is a person's weight in kilograms (kg) divided by their height in meters (m) squared. This should give you a clearer look and understanding now. In other words, the people that most of us consider are obese, are usually morbidly obese. Because what you and I consider fat, is obese. As you can see, there is a difference. If you have any doubts, ask your health care professional.

First, to take care of this person, whether they are obese or morbidly obese, you must learn compassion. This means not looking at them and laughing. And it also means, not looking at them and feeling sympathy for them either. The condition that they are in, did not just up and appear by itself. It had help. And yes, some of the help, came from the enabler. 

To take care of this person, you need not be an enabler; you must be a care giver. Also, let it be known-this could be an inherited condition or a medical condition-if you by chance- don't know the facts. The person you are tending to, is a person somewhere inside there. With a little help, you can find that person again. And I am going to teach you how.

This person, to which you are to now care for-needs enthusiasm. A reason to get up and move. Taking care of them in no way shape or form does not mean, waiting on them hand and foot. And yes, sometimes it will seem like you are a cheer leader, but trust me, in the long run it will help.

The worst thing that you will encounter, is the showering and bathing. They aren't going to admit that they need help, and they will tell you they can do it alone. But one thing you need to be aware, is that obese people, especially if they are morbidly obese-are not going to be able to clean every spot. And as time goes on, believe it or not-they will mold under the "fat flaps". This is where you come in. This is where you turn off your emotions and feelings, and simply want to clean them up, and see to it that they don't get what is often referred to as bed sores.

Bed sores, do not necessarily come from being in bed all of the time. They also grow because you are unable to reach and clean a certain spot. Make a simple sponge bath sound fun, and worth while. Even relaxing and refreshing! Make it sound like you have nothing better to do, and want to do it. Because if you are caring for a stubborn obese person, they don't care, and don't want you to know.
This is also where you can claim that in your studies, and/or that you have a relative who is just as big, and you help her- so it's not something new to you. Tell them there is nothing to be ashamed of, and draw up the sponge bath yourself, and just be a little pushy. Hopefully the person you are tending too, won't be irate and irrational.

For the sores, there is a Neosporin ointment that is good. No band aids! However with my own experiences I found that cleaning the sores, and putting the ointment on them, then putting a towel in the spot, keeping the medicine in the spot, and free of sweat and mold, the sores healed quicker. Part of the problem with the sores in the first place, is because the problem area is wet with sweat. After the sweat is there for a while, and the mold starts growing, then a rancid odor starts. When there are no sores, and you want to make a difference in the area, the smell and the fact that is always wet, this too, is where I discovered a towel helps. It gives that section of the body a break, so to speak.

Because obese people do not take care of themselves properly, and people are afraid to say something- this just keeps happening. With my friend, I told her I wanted her to change, and that I wanted her to be around longer. I also told her, because she was my friend, (hoping this would encourage her,) that she represented me. I also tried telling her, she was giving "fat" people a bad name. You know how it is, if one "fat" person smells, they all do. They label thing, I used whatever I could come up with to make this woman change. And I succeeded.

At first, the woman I took care of couldn't walk six feet without running out of breath, and sounding like she ran a mile. Winded and worn out. Think about this, the weight sits on the lungs and chest, so the heart is working much harder then it should have to.

So we started walking around the block daily. I figured if I made this a "we" thing, how could I go wrong? Everyone needs exercised. I also cut down her portions, and this woman was used to eating, and eating and eating. Refill after refill. I couldn't afford to feed her that much, and she did not need to have that much either! I would hear her belly growl constantly. So then I decided to do the dietary snacks; the rice cakes, I started reading calories, and everything. I put the change through the whole family. I made her start drinking water, and writing down things that were bothering her. I made her read, and focus on life. And then, I even made her get a job.
Fortunately, she had lost well over fifty pounds by the time the first job came to exist. So her breathing was less of a "show" and more discreet, so people were no longer staring at her for that. I bought her clothes that fit properly, and taught her how to match. I told her, that although you are fat, you don't have to look like you are a slob, and lazy. Make a statement, think positive and want to look good. I cut her hair, showed her how to do her make up, and trimmed her eye brows.

I was SO set on changing this woman, that I made sure to get the job with her, to be her support there too. The advantage, she now liked the way she looked and felt, and even the job.

Doing positive things to people, helps them to want to change. And you have to do this right, so it's not like you are nagging and complaining. "I want what's best for you!" That is your goal. If you can't cut hair, then style it, maybe even curl it with a curling iron or something. Show them how to improve with what they already have.

If it is a man, a hair style change is still an idea. Perhaps shaping a beard, growing a mustache. "Gee, Carl-I wonder what you would look like with a mustache. I bet it would look sexy!" That builds them up, and they will want to. Not just to please you either. And as far as men go, there are other things you can do. Pluck the unibrow; trim the nose hairs, the hairs in the ears, little things. And then make a big deal out of it when you are done. "Yeah, now that looks nice! Wonder what Debbie next door will think now?"

Your goal is to be the teacher, the instructor, the counselor, and the friend. All wrapped up into one. You can do it. You're changing someone, and helping them to live longer. And even if they quit doing it after a while, after loosing over one hundred pounds or so-you still made a difference. You made them change, taught them how to eat right, and taught them how to better themselves. Even if they go back to the way they were-they will still remember, and so will everyone else!

And if they walk away, or throw you to the wolves, and do go back to the way they were. Someone's going to ask them-"What?! You're putting that weight back on? I thought Sybil changed you. I thought you liked the way you looked. Why are you doing this??"

And after the day is done, when you go to bed at night, you deserve a pat on the back. And that pat isn't just coming from your conscience; it is also coming from the Lord himself. You did what was right. Don't give up. The weight is not going to fall off over night, either.

And if this obese person is you, and you need someone to help you-ask. I am sure someone would want to help you, support you, and be the leaning tower that you need. And if you have no one, and even if you do-I strongly recommend buying a journal. Take your anger out in the journal. Don't let your upset feelings, make you eat. Write. More often then not, THAT is how people put on the weight. No one would listen, no one except that bowl of ice cream. No. That's where you're wrong. That journal will always listen, and as you're writing, God is listening too. After you are done writing, pray to Him for guidance and support. That's what He is there for.

Never give up on anyone, especially yourself. We were ALL put on this Earth for a purpose. Just because you don't know, or "think" you don't what it is, doesn't give you just cause to decide to give up. Someone needs you, someone wants you. And believe it or not, God loves you. If you ever need moral support, don't be afraid to ask a Church, your family and friends. And don't hesitate to ask God.



If you have any questions, please feel free to contact me, I am willing to help too.

Published by Deneale K. Williams